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Book Review: She Deserves Better

By: Mikaela Bell | September 14, 2023

After finishing their survey and best-selling book The Great Sex Rescue, testing popular Christian teachings about marriage and sex and empirically demonstrating the harm caused by patriarchal messages, co-authors Sheila Wray Gregoire, Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach, and Joanna Sawatsky received many inquiries from parents of young girls. These mothers (and fathers) wanted to know how they [...]

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Is This Safe to Drink? Thoughts on Our Thirst for Intimacy

By: Erin Moniz | September 5, 2022

Porn is a counterfeit intimacy. When we allow porn to distort true intimacy, we lose out on the partner work—whether platonic or covenantal—of the gospel, for which God created us.

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In Vain Pursuit: How Courtship Culture Trained Us to Disregard Consent

By: Whitney Evans Harrison | April 28, 2021

Whether we realize it, the vestiges of courtship culture continue to loom large in many Christian communities, even egalitarian ones. What will it take for us to see equality as romantic? 

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Lessons from Eliezer: What an Old Testament Matchmaker Has to Say About Egalitarian Dating

By: Kay Bonikowsky | June 5, 2019

Dating is difficult in today’s culture. As I have counseled single women and men through the years, I often heard pleas for help to find a Christian person to date. And let’s be honest. There are many different kinds of Christians. How does one get help to find a similar kind of Christian? [...]

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What If Singleness Isn’t Failure?

By: Krysti Wilkinson | June 5, 2019

No one says the word “failure” out loud, of course. No one would dare. But when marriage is the ideal that everyone is working toward, anything that falls short feels like you did something wrong.

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Welcome to the Jungle: The Dating Adventures of a Fifty-Something Egalitarian

By: Cindy J. Hurd | June 5, 2019

It is crucial that we women who don’t fit into the church’s too-neat “happily ever after” narrative share our stories. Because God sees our struggles and the church should too.

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Smart Women and Fragile Men: How Patriarchy Shapes Identity and Romance

By: Tim Krueger | June 5, 2019

Do men want to date smart women? This was the question behind a 2015 study published by the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin.1 What the study learned is that men like the idea of dating women who are smarter than them, but when they meet an actual woman who fits the profile, they suddenly become much [...]

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It’s Time for a Sexual Ethic Jesus Might Have Actually Preached

By: Lyndsey Medford | June 5, 2019

Consent: a word so bland I once found it almost ugly. Why would I base my framework for romantic relationships on a word as flippant and perfunctory as a waiver to have my photo taken? Bodies and relationships are deeply important to me as a Christian. Naturally, sex is also deeply important to me. Even [...]

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Choose Your Own Adventure: A Very Egalitarian Proposal

By: Sierra Neiman Westbrook | March 4, 2019

When Justin got down on one knee—on the day we chose months before—and opened the box to reveal the ring we picked out together, I didn’t feel a rush of dumbfounded amazement. But I didn’t miss that at all. The joyful expectancy of our special day was a tremendous gift—as [...]

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Hey Church, We Need to Talk About Consent

By: Melissa Spolar | December 19, 2018

The few men who have kissed me did not ask my permission first. They didn’t ask if I wanted their tongues in my mouth, or about any of the other things they’ve tried either. It seems this is the standard today—even among Christians. 

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