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Mutuality | Blog + Magazine | Autumn 2018

The print + digital magazine of CBE International

Mutuality offers articles from diverse writers who share egalitarian theology and explore its intersection with everyday life.

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The opinions expressed in these articles are those of the authors. They do not purport to reflect the opinions or views of CBE International or its members.

Cover of Autumn 2018 Mutuality

Autumn 2018

Volume: 25 | Number: 3

Boys Don't Cry: A Crisis of Vulnerability

Authors respond to the “boy’s don’t cry” mentality in the Western world and church, proposing that we should instead encourage vulnerability and emotional intelligence in boys.

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It’s Good for Everyone When Boys Can Be Vulnerable
By: Tim Krueger | September 5, 2018
We need to raise men who find their identity in Christ, not in gendered stereotypes. So where do we start? Here's five ideas.

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Boy Stories: Teaching Our Sons to Share and Listen
By: Tyler Billman, Jenny Billman | September 5, 2018
Countering prevalent views on masculinity requires intentional action. While there are many ways to foster connection and emotional health, there’s one tool that has worked especially for us: storytelling. 

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Raising Emotional Boys in a “Boys Don’t Cry” Culture
By: Rebecca Shimp Martin | September 5, 2018
No one ever warned us that we might have a child whose response to every disappointment would be perpetually set to Defcon One. We had one laid-back, happy son, and we thought we understood what little boys needed and how they behaved. Boys, we were always told, are resilient. They don’t express themselves verbally. [...]

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Give Them Words: Helping Boys Name and Navigate Their Emotions
By: Tatyana Claytor | September 5, 2018
Words are my gift to my son, a gift many men do not grow up with. Instead, they are taught that emotions are silly or effeminate and should therefore be ignored (or at least restrained). These men now struggle with anger and health issues that don’t seem to have any clear causes. 

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When Gender Roles Don’t Work: How One Couple and Their Sons Became Egalitarians
By: Jodi Hansen, David Hansen | September 5, 2018
We spent many years of our marriage and raised our sons in a church that sought to form men into manly Christian leaders and women into submissive followers. Thankfully, we realized that model didn’t make sense for our marriage or for our sons.

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A Father’s Reflection: Teaching My Son Vulnerability through My Struggle with Depression
By: Michael Bain | September 5, 2018
I've chosen not to shy away from telling my kids about my depression. I want them to know that when they face grief, anxiety, or disappointment, they don’t have to hide it. 

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Growing Pains: How Complementarianism Shames Boys and Isolates Men
By: Jason Eden | September 5, 2018
I was a victim of one of the many contradictions of complementarian Christianity. Complementarians say that men teach and lead while women learn and submit. Yet, at my school, most of the teachers were women. In fact, in Christian churches and schools throughout the world, females teach and lead while male students learn and submit.

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The Tears of Men: The Emotional Masculinity of Jesus and Saint Francis
By: Mimi Haddad | September 5, 2018
How easily we swallow the myth that “boys don’t cry,” forgetting that male saints, and Jesus himself, often failed to conform to the gender stereotypes of their (or our) day.

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