Is This Safe to Drink? Thoughts on Our Thirst for Intimacy
“He won’t have sex with me.” After only a year of marriage the newlywed couple I had provided pre-marital counseling for was facing a significant
September 5, 2022
Topic: Dating
In Vain Pursuit: How Courtship Culture Trained Us to Disregard Consent
Editor’s note: This is a CBE 2020 Writing Contest honorable mention. Enjoy! Yet may I by no means my wearied mind Draw from the deer,
April 28, 2021
It’s Time for a Sexual Ethic Jesus Might Have Actually Preached
Consent: a word so bland I once found it almost ugly. Why would I base my framework for romantic relationships on a word as flippant
June 19, 2019
Lessons from Eliezer: What an Old Testament Matchmaker Has to Say About Egalitarian Dating
Dating is difficult in today’s culture. As I have counseled single women and men through the years, I often heard pleas for help to find
June 19, 2019
What If Singleness Isn’t Failure?
It’s hard when every break up feels like a failure. That is what no one tells you about being single in the church. We are
June 19, 2019
Welcome to the Jungle: The Dating Adventures of a Fifty-Something Egalitarian
After surviving a tumultuous divorce, I found myself in my fifties, newly single and surveying an unknown dating landscape. After embracing an egalitarian viewpoint in
June 19, 2019
Smart Women and Fragile Men: How Patriarchy Shapes Identity and Romance
Do men want to date smart women? This was the question behind a 2015 study published by the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin.1 What the
June 19, 2019
Choose Your Own Adventure: A Very Egalitarian Proposal
“I’m dead set against being proposed to at a restaurant,” I informed my boyfriend. “I’d love a glass of champagne on the house,” I continued,
March 4, 2019
Hey Church, We Need to Talk About Consent
Editor’s Note: This is one of our Top 20 winners from the 2018 CBE Writing Contest! The few men who have kissed me did not ask
December 20, 2018
Let’s Stop Telling Our Girls That Beauty Can Redeem the Beast
Several weeks ago, my husband John and I watched The Breakfast Club with Emma and Lucas. I initially questioned whether or not the film would be good
August 23, 2018
