Blog/Magazine Article

To Change or Not to Change: How Egalitarian Couples Navigate Last Names

Submitted by Mary Lou Wiley on Tue, 11/24/2020 - 17:59

Holiday engagement season is upon us and although the pandemic may have postponed or altered some couples’ plans to marry, others are still making plans to tie the knot soon. Previously I wrote a guide to egalitarian engagements and weddings, but I left out one big question many egalitarian couples face: how to navigate deciding whether to change last names.

How Patriarchy Hurts Men

Submitted by Mary Lou Wiley on Wed, 11/11/2020 - 13:29

I remember the first and, incidentally, the last time I saw my grandfather cry.

I remember it the way a teen remembers their first kiss or their first day of school. I remember it like a couple remembers their first dance or their first date. I remember it the way the country remembers when Neil Armstrong first stepped foot on the moon.

I remember it vividly because it was everything to me.

Blessed Are the Harmonizers

Submitted by Mary Lou Wiley on Wed, 11/04/2020 - 14:16

On the eve of the US election, how many of us laid in bed awaiting results with knots in our stomachs? Who among us can hide our concerns for the future as significant differences divide our country and also the church? We have articulate and passionate spokespersons (but not necessarily saints) on every side. Their rhetoric too often feeds presumption, misrepresentation, and algorithms instead of holiness. Who has not prayed for leaders who depolarize, unite, and heal around a deep identity and purpose?

Is God My Mother?

Submitted by Mary Lou Wiley on Wed, 10/28/2020 - 08:47

Editor’s note: This is one of the Top 15 2020 CBE Writing Contest winners. Enjoy!

When I was very young, I once heard adults talking about a couple who had left a church because they felt that the church was no longer being faithful to the Bible. The only detail I remember about the supposedly unfaithful church was this comment, made in a shocked and disdainful tone of voice: “They were calling God ‘Mother’!”

Confronting Wonder Woman Syndrome: Female Pastors and the Pandemic

Submitted by Mary Lou Wiley on Wed, 10/14/2020 - 15:12

The role of the pastor has shifted in the age of coronavirus. As churches consider reopening and discuss strategies for a safe congregational return to worship, there is a heightened sense of anxiety. Safety concerns, liability, finances, grieving congregants, conspiracy theories, and mounting pressure to open are just a few of the issues facing clergy. It does not matter what gender you are; if you are a pastor right now, these are challenging times.