Recently, I was invited to participate in a panel on singleness at a Christian conference. I shared my experience as a single woman pastor and how single clergy can feel isolated in a church culture where marriage is the default. It was the first time since university that I had an honest, direct, public conversation about singleness in the church.
When I view my singleness as a situation, I can "give thanks in all circumstances." But when it becomes an identity, shame creeps in. I think of my worth in terms of supply and demand. Meditate with me on how God's love changes everything.