Many women have had to grieve the complementarian Christian faith they were raised in. Using the stages of grief as a model is a helpful lens for deconstructing this faith and rebuilding better interpretations of Paul.
People who believe strict gender roles in marriage are biblical sometimes compare them to partnered dancing. This article challenges that understanding of both dance and marriage, crediting to the real Choreographer.
Certainty that your loved one will treat you as an equal ought to be a given, but we all know that not every church teaches the importance or even legitimacy of egalitarian marriage. How could I be assured that this was as important to the man proposing as it was to me?
Try as we might, there is no way to equally share the joys and struggles of carrying a child, giving birth, and breastfeeding. When my husband and I were ready to grow our family, I wondered how we would be able to maintain our nontraditional gender roles and split work equally.
Not all tradition is bad; honoring the past can be a beautiful thing. Each of us gets to decide what traditions we do and don’t incorporate in our day. Yet, I do think egalitarian couples have a unique chance to challenge the typical wedding narrative.
A “husband trump card” can be an excuse to not do the important relational work of communicating with each other, compromising, and resolving conflict together. It can also foster a dangerous power imbalance in marriages, making husbands and wives opponents instead of partners.