The primary task when considering Paul's assertion, “the husband is the head of the wife,” should be discovering the meaning of this head-and-body metaphor, not arguing for an extended metaphorical sense of half of the metaphor—the single word, "head."
Many women have had to grieve the complementarian Christian faith they were raised in. Using the stages of grief as a model is a helpful lens for deconstructing this faith and rebuilding better interpretations of Paul.
People who believe strict gender roles in marriage are biblical sometimes compare them to partnered dancing. This article challenges that understanding of both dance and marriage, crediting to the real Choreographer.
Certainty that your loved one will treat you as an equal ought to be a given, but we all know that not every church teaches the importance or even legitimacy of egalitarian marriage. How could I be assured that this was as important to the man proposing as it was to me?
Kevin Giles surveys available scientific information and notes the consensus that the most sure indicator of higher incidences of abuse is found in communities where men are privileged and expected to be in charge.