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Reviewing Christian Dating Books

On March 29, 2010

I have read a lot of Christian dating books. A lot. I started reading them in high school, as a new Christian. And then when I became passionate about biblical equality, I read even more, in order to analyze their teachings on gender. Through my reading, I have found that the vast majority of books on the topic are unhelpful to egalitarians because they contain any or all of the following problems:

  1. A reliance on cultural assumptions about relationships
  2. A lack of strong biblical teaching and biblical references
  3. An overemphasis on differences between men and women
  4. An assumption that men are designed by God to initiate, lead, and protect while women are designed to submit, respond, and be protected
  5. An overemphasis on romance and a devaluing of singleness, especially when they are written to women

So here are the questions:

  1. What are other unhealthy teachings on gender that you see in Christian dating books? (Let’s please keep these comments respectful and irenic!)
  2. What other specific criteria should we look for when searching for quality Christian books on dating and relationships?
  3. Considering how few good resources we seem to have, what are the “non-negotiables,” i.e. the teachings that must be present (or must be absent) in order to recommend a book?
  4. What good dating books can you recommend?

 

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